Your Happy Life

Words can be a powerful thing and how we use them can be have a big impact on some and sometimes the things that happen in people lives. It is important to remember that words can last for a long time much longer then it takes to speak them.

Words can stay with people for a long long time, could be years, decades or even in some cases a life time. This is all well and good if the words a nice, kind words that make people feel good or better about themselves but when they are unkind, hurtful, mean words them this is a BIG problem. As those words have a long lasting negative effect on people and there life's.


Negative words can have a profound effect on people lives, it can make the less confident and be more self conscious, it can also cause people to lose their self esteem. All these things together can have a huge affect of people's life they may feel unable to go outside their homes and that will then effect their social life and cause them to lose friendships or at the very least damage them, so them they become and feel alone and possible lost.



Positive words can have a whole world of difference to someone it can make them feel better about themselves or have positive thoughts about whatever the kind words were about. They can also simply make some one smile or make their day. They can simply just cheer someone up because let's face it we all have those days sometimes and need something to make us smile

So think how you would like to feel and how you would want others to talk to you before you speak to someone or if you see someone is having a bad day or feel unhappy, just say something kind it does not cost a thing to be kind and can take just a few seconds to make someone feel better and happy to turn their day around






 

Well for the last few weeks or maybe longer I have been bottling up my feelings and emotions. Which is never a good thing in the first place as it never sorts out the problem the problem only gets bigger anyway all this bottling up lead to a MASSIVE crying emotional out burst, which did actually make me feel better after I spoke about the things I believed were making feel like this.

For me talking about my problems to someone helps me to realise that I am not the only person that feels like this sometimes, as I tend to think that I shouldn't feel like this and I'm being stupid or silly as people at my age don't seem to feel like this, but the opposite is true everyone gets over whelmed or feel out of there depth at times.

Plus If you ignore the problem or don't sort it out it only gets worse and can lead to disasters and things get blown way out of proportion!



If you have a bigger problem and find you need support or someone who does not know and won't judge you there are many  different support groups or organisations that you can get in touch with you can start by googling the type of support you are looking for or the type of support group you are wanting should find you loads of different support just remember you are never alone. You could even go to counselling, if you feel that would help.

I am very lucky I have great people around me, who are very supportive and I think this is very important thing to have is people supporting you when you are finding it hard to do this yourself.

Hey You Guys





Now that the weather is starting to get a bit colder and the sun coming up later and the sun going down later, which I personally hate! I thought it about time I thought about some of the things I actually like about this season, as soon it will be even colder and darker for longer which sucks even more grrrr.

Any how here are a list of some of the things I do enjoy and gives me that warm fuzzy feeling inside:

• Snuggling up in front of the fire (if you have one)
• Finally finding it appropriate to drink hot drinks again like selected teas and coffees (I'm fussy about them) or my favourite still hot chocolate
• Reading books in front the fire all snuggled up
• The changes in colours (in about everything)
• Putting candles on (I absolutely love candles)
• All the Winter/Autumn favours or scents coming out in shops

so there you have it some of thing I enjoy and make me happy basically anything that includes being snuggled up in a blanket and being in front a fire (not necessarily a live or a gas or electric one will do fine). I love candles more so in this time of year (unless in the summer outside in the garden) I freaking Love candles!


Please share some of your favourite things in Autumn that make you happy
    

Hey Readers! how's it going?




So today October the 10th is world mental health day and I though I would take the time to help raise awareness of it and try to do my part in tackling the stigma of mental health.

I expect we all know someone who suffers from a mental illness they come in many forms and don't always have physical signs that can be seen. Which makes it difficult for some people to see the mental illness or think someone is simply attention seeking, when in fact they have no control over it and can be a daily battle to do the simplest of tasks. Mental illness can also lead to physical health.

I think It well about time that we get properly educated of the facts and what it is like to have a mental health issue, what ever that may be. It should be taught in schools and colleges even universities so that we tackle the issue at every level and even have a support groups somewhere people with a mental health issue can feel they are safe and able to talk about their particular mental illness and where they can get the support they need also they can see they are not on their on with having a mental illness as sometimes it can feel like that especially when it seems like no one else has the same troubles you do and they can just get on with their lives battles free.


   

 

Hi There Everyone (waves at you all)



So how many of us are really happy being our unique selves as no two people are 100% the same, they maybe very similar but not exactly the same!

It seems like a lot of the time the media wants us to fight with our selves with something that 1. we have no control over and 2. we have literally no way of making everyone let alone two people the exact same as each other.

It can sometimes feel like there are people such as the media or some person or persons closer to you that want you to be like most people and if you are not then they can be quite cruel to you in an attempt to be in there group of people.




Which if you are happy with the you being your lovely wonderful unique self then you more then likely you will see past there games and find that you have more to offer being unique, plus I find it better and more interesting to be unique and different to everyone else.

Life would be very boring if we were all the same imagine billions of you walking in male and female form.

I find life a lot more exciting with everyone being different in big ways or just the small ways that some people my not notice. As variety is the spice of life after all and they don't say that for the good of their health now do they.

Why does it matter if you are different to other people as long as you are happy and healthy who else should and does care. I really does not matter as long as your happy and health, plus if everyone was like you, then half the stuff that has been invented, made or developed would not of happened now that would be a shame.

Hi there everyone and every body! (see what I did there!)

Today I am going to say my take on the whole body image thing that seems to keep going around This will be strictly my option and my take on the whole issue. Feel 100% free to leave your options, comments or whatever in the comment section I look forward to reading them.

To put it simply I believe as long as you are happy and are healthy then what does it matter what other people think of your body it is not their body to worry about maybe they should go back and worry about themselves rather then worry about someone else. Don't get me wrong it is nice that they care about you and the way you look, but surely if your happy with it and are healthy then what is the problem? seriously.

Myself I like the fact that I have scars. I'm not ashamed of them (to be honest half the time I don't even think about them.) they remind me of what I have been through and how strong I can be plus there are a lot more important thing I have to think of  such as paying bills! They also tell the story of my life they are unique to me as I have more then one, but even if I did have only one no two scars are the same and the meaning of that scar could be two completely different things.

I guess I look at them in a positive way they are part of me part of who I am they are nothing to be ashamed of rather more in my mind something to be proud of and what if they make an appearance once in a while who cares no one should.

Nobody's bodies are exactly the same never mind how much you wish for it your body I never going to be the same as someone else's and the media certainly does not help with the whole body image issues you just have to find the beauty of yourself and except who you are and what you looks like. It won't be easy and it won't be quick it will take some time and soul searching, but it will be 100% worth it in the end .



                                                           

Hi Guys



I read this sentence Life is an adventure. Which I actually agree with this the more I think about the more I agree with it, because if you are not trying to develop and improve yourself then not doing anything and staying the same, so there is not adventure to have life stays the same and there is no adventure.



Every little change in your life can be classed as an adventure. Like everyone or most people you are on your adventure of life, constantly trying to improve ourselves trying to make ourselves the very best we can be and that can be different for every person.

Each of us have our own stories and adventures to tell and share and may more to have in the future this is just the beginning not the end of life's journey and it should be a fun and exciting one.





 

Hi guys I thought I would share some that is real and honest with you and I have/had any plan how to write this, I have literally put pen to paper so say. which in itself is a bit scary as you never know quite what you are going to get, or if everything is spelt right or the grammar is correct, so please for give me for that .

Any way Is it just me or do you find really good quotes or meanings from kind of songs people either put there nose up to today and do not admit listening to, not even once and make fun of, that they do.
sometimes actually have good life lessons in then and can inspire people.

People get different things out of different songs and different genres of music. Nearly everybody enjoys or listens to music and there are many different reasons for it some people find it relaxing or calming or it makes them happy, some people even find certain songs speak to them and help them with what they are dealing with in there own life as many songs are written though life experiences of the song writer.

Myself personally I listen and enjoy music because it makes me feel happy, inspired , and certain music makes me feel relaxed. I listen to a wide range of music and it all depends on the song , even sometimes the memories it holds in the song good or bad. It is all part of my life and part of what makes me, well me. and that is a pretty special thing which makes music in my mind a pretty special and important thing .

Here is a list of some songs I think have some words of meaning or inspiration even if it is only a line

1. S Club 7 - Bring it all back
2. Christina Aguilera - Beautiful
3. Alicia Keys - Superwomen (Obviously if you are a women)
4. Katy Perry - Firework
5. Katy Perry - Part of me
6. Jessie J - Who's Laughing Now
7. Mariah Carey - Hero
8. Eminem - Lose Yourself
9. Christa Aguilera - Fighter
10. Jewel -Stronger Women (Again this is for a women/female)

May I just add these are in no particular order. They were just a 10 songs I could think of and have had meaning at some point to me in my life. I know there are many more but I did not want to make to big a list and bore everyone.

Please leave a comment and say what your songs/song that has meaning to you or has inspired you. I would be more then happy to hear them.



Hi Guys and Girls!



I have been thinking about how little people do not understand what mental health is and what comes under mental heath, or how to deal with it and how people think it is a bad thing, that these people are to be avoided or looked at in a different way. Instead of helping them in any way they can.

Life is NEVER easy but for people with a mental health issue, it can be even harder for them and doing day to day things, that most of us take for granted can be near impossible for people with mental health issues.

So I thought if you started to teach children from a certain age when they are old enough to understand such a topic then maybe as they grow older there will be less of a stigma against mental health and people will understand  what mental health is and be able to deal with it or help someone to deal with it. Another bonus to this would be that young people will be able to get the help from support groups or other organisations that are trained and able to deal with such issues.

The younger it is possible to teach children/young adults about mental health the more accepting and understanding they will become. Of course you will have to have a teacher or someone that is educated in this matter to teach it .

(Sorry if this post is not that amazing and lacks my normal sparkle but it is getting late here and I am feeling a tiny bit tired and the picture at the top was taken by me about a year ago).

Hi Readers

I was thinking the other day, how everyone is always labelling or looking reasons why someone is different to you and there not as good as you (I am aware not everyone does this but there are people out this judge a book by it's cover).

A big reason, for this I believe is the Media and social media and the way that people are portrayed. Which is not what most people are actually like.! People come in all shapes and sizes which is OK and should be celebrated more and not feel like it wrong to be who you are. Not be made to think that if you don't fit the mould then you are not right you are not accepted and made to dislike your body or worse hate it (which upsets my greatly).




But the media also can make you feel like the things you enjoy, hobbies, interests and lifestyles are not to be like and enjoyed and that we all have to like and enjoy the same things the right things. Which is completely 100% wrong! I myself prefer knowing and having friends that are into different things and have different views.

It doesn't matter how cool you are how hot or good looking you are there is always someone who is better or better looking then you. what matters is how you are the best that you can be never mind what  label that is.




                                                       Best wishes
                                                           Stacey
    

                                                            
Hi Everyone

I have recently been thing been thinking about what is actually good for you or I or people in general with some many different and opposite so called facts or do we just listen to what people tell us and make out it's all true and what they say are right? As there are a lot of people out there, like that.

So I was watching this very interesting documentary on clean eating and if it was actually doing us. A added bonus to this was that Gracie Victory was presenting the documentary and if you do not know who she is then where have you been? She is a YouTuber who makes videos from anything from beauty and fashion to body image and mental illness. I personally love her work on mental illness and body image all her videos on the subjects. I have been following her on YouTube for many many years now.

Like me and a lot o girls/women out there she is not Skinny she has real curves and she has/had her own body issues, which I for one have struggled with for many years now, but she say's sod it to trying to be perfect and see's the beauty in her own body and encourages others to find the beauty in their body and I think she is a really inspiration and a role model.

Anyway, I got a bit off track there, so I learnt a lot for this documentary, more about not to do any of these fad diets and that clean eating is more or less not doing you any good. You may lose weight thought it, but at what cost to your body, it can seriously mess your body up. I f done for a while some can sometimes tell the effects after a few days or weeks, depending on what your diet was like before. The best kind of eating is a balanced diet making sure your body gets all it needs to function properly and at the end of the day that is the most important thing any way. Who really cares if someone doesn't think your body is perfect? I bet if you looked under the hood their body would not be perfect either!

Link to Grace's YouTube https://www.youtube.com/user/UglyFaceOfBeauty
Link to Grace's blog http://www.graciefrancesca.com/
 
                                         Thanks for reading
                                              lots of love
                                                 Stacey
   

Hello There Readers



I thought it would be good that today's post would be about improving your mood as from time to time, everyone has bad mood, or feeling a bit down or stressed out in life. It's only human to feel these things and healthy to, but some times you just get fed up of feeling like this or just want to feel better.

So as I have been feeling a little up and down emotionally lately, I thought it would be helpful to share some helpful (or hopefully helpful) tips on boosting or improving your mood. Which like most things in life is down to you.

So here goes:

• Give someone a compliment

This will help you feel better about yourself as well as making someone else feel good about them self. So your just spreading the love and happiness. It's the small things that go along way in life.

• Act how you want to feel

So the theory behind this is, if you are thinking about how down or unhappy you are the more likely you are going to feel like that (see where I am going with this). So if you think positive happy thoughts you will feel more positive or happy. Why not give it a try?

• Think of the positives in the situation

Even in a bad situation there is always some positives to come from it. You just have to change the way you look at the situation itself, for example you may not want to go to an event with your friend/friends as that particular event does not interest you or a group of people you d not like or do not get on with will be there. Instead of looking at it like that think of it more like I may meet some interesting people there and possibly make some new friends or it might be nice to try something different out of my comfort zone or I might learn something from this or learn something about myself. This should make you look at situations in a more positive way.

• Appreciate what you have

Think of the basic things that you have and are grateful to have for instance a roof over your head, your health, your family and friends and your job. Just remember not everyone is as lucky as you are. You may not have everything you want in life, but always take a moment to stop and think about the things you do have and be grateful that you have those things and how lucky you are. You could also make a list of things that you appreciate that you have, so you can look at it and remind yourself how lucky you are every once in a while. We tend to get lost in the big picture of things and forget to take it back to basics.

• Talk to someone about it

This one personally helps me because it can make you feel better by just talking about it, plus the other person can have a different outlook on it and make you think more positively about the it. even give you some good advice. I often build things up in my head to be worse then they are in reality and sometimes it is just nice to know there is someone there when you need them. I am sure they will not mind listening to you as I am sure you will return the favour when they need you

I hope this helps at least one person lift there mood let me know if you like this or find it useful

Hi Everybody!
How you all doing? Let me tell you about this little thought I had and thought was a bit thought provoking. I wasn't doing anything very exciting or of any particular meaning when I had this thought come into my head that maybe just maybe people or humans were not suppose to be perfect? I know to some of you this may come as a shock to you ! But stay with me.

If everyone was suppose to be perfect at some point in their life then why are every single human being different in some way, making the whole thing of being perfect an option? Just think about that for a minute. Everyone option of what is perfect will be different in some way even in the slightest way as our options and thought are shaped by our life experience.

If you take two people from completely different backgrounds their ideas and thoughts are going to be completely different because their life experiences have been completely different, even two people who's life experiences have been similar will not be completely the same, yes they may agree on more things but not exactly everything.

So this lead me to think maybe the best thing we all can do is to be our best self  and stop trying to be 'perfect' in other people eyes maybe we were all suppose to be different there is reason for that, because face it if everyone was the same the world would be a boring place indeed.

Please let me know what you think. I would love to know you can leave a comment in the comment box or leave a message somewhere else then feel free to and I will try to answer you back



Stacey

Hi people of the world!!!

I was have been feeling a bit anxious to today and last night/evening and I got to thinking of why I tend to get these feelings of anxiety, sometimes they can be often but other times they can come out of know where and more then likely linked to something I am unaware that I am thinking about. Which can be a bit annoying from time to time as I have no idea why I am feeling these feelings or it, it could also be I do not realise what is bothering me and when this happens there is not a lot I can do about except trying to calm myself down (not always that easy I can tell you) or try to thinking and work out what is bothering me, which can lead to more worrying which is never good. Sometimes I find It helpful talking to someone about it and how I am feeling as It is true what they say and problem shared is a problem halved, that way you can both work on easing your mind and that person can reassure you everything will be ok and there is nothing to worry about.

Other times my brain cannot stop thinking of the reason for this bout of an anxiety and no matter what I do I cannot stop thinking of it and it builds up until I can calm myself or solve the problem which can be a while trust me and can take over days if not more of my life which I personally hate but can not do anything about it sometimes other times I try everything under the sun to calm myself.

A lot of the time this is the result of my over thinking which I tend to do a lot of, I also tend to think the worse case scenarios, which then some of the time causes the anxiety in the first place or I believe it does (so you can see it is a bit of a circle here going round and round). I try to not over think things as in kicks of the whole circle going on, which then affects my daily life and my enjoyment of It in stead of enjoying every minute of my free time I end up worrying what might happen and what if it does happen then what will I do and start worrying and panicking and having anxiety. Instead I try and do some things to calm myself a resolve my way in thinking some of these ways can be these:

•  Listening to calming music e.g. classical, relaxing sounds
• Concentrating on breathing
• Meditation
• Sitting outside and listening to the sounds around me e.g. Birds singing
• Talking to someone about it
• Thinking positively or making a plan to deal with what ever is bothering you
• Telling myself it is going to be ok I'm safe and It's going to be ok  

 These are some of the things I do to calm myself down or to stop my anxiety. I hope this helps you in some way and if you have any other ways you deal with your anxiety then feel free to share them in the comments.

 

Hi there Readers
Hope your are having a wonderful day!


I have come across a lot of ways to deal with stress and use some myself. I such a society where people are always on the go and have a lot of things going on at once and the pressures of doing well and succeeding in life, which can lead to unwanted stress

It  thought it a good idea to share some of these tips with you as it is good to share things with each other and learn new things so here we go.

1. Breathe - Take your time to breath each day. It calms the nervous system down and creates chemicals in your body, that tells your body that everything is ok.
2. Open up to a friend - Opening up even if you are a bit nervous about it can be a good thing! Telling someone can make you feel better and that a weight has been lifted and can help turn your perspective around or make you calmer.
3. Pamper your skin- A lot of the time lack of sleep, sickness or stress can show up . So taking your make-up off , washing your face, putting a face mask on, then relaxing with some TV, Netflix, DVD, listening to some music or podcast , reading a book , depending on what you enjoy doing,  then washing off the face mask and moisturise can make you feel more relaxed.
4. Prayer- (This is of course optional and up to you if you choose to do this if you are not interested then skip ahead) It takes work and focus like a lot of things in life but you may feel a lot calmer from this.
5. Reflect and Prioritize -It is important to stop and think about how you are living your life. Time flies by and the lack of doing this could be what is causing your stress in the first place. You could also miss out on something important if you do not prioritize it.
6. Get outside - Even if it is only for a walk and a stretching this can help to clear your head and make you think more clearly. It can also remind you how great life it shelf is. Doing this always makes me smile and feel better about whatever I am worried or stressed about.

This post was inspired by the YouTube channel Nikki Phillippi
www.youtube.com/NikkiPhillippi
so go check her out .

Hi guys
I noticed an overwhelming amount of people writing, commenting and talking about other people and other people's body's and comparing them or shaming them rather then looking at there own and caring so much about there own.

People who do this often are not happy with there own appearance or there own body, and rather then deal with there own body issues they turn all their built up feelings on their own body and turn them on others and make them feel bad about their bodies and start a whole lot of issues for them.

Rather then deal with their own issues and make them selves feel better and happier and solve their own issue. Which would be a lot better then creating them for others, that way everyone is happy and confident in their own skin

It does matter if your thin, skinny, chubby, large, curvy no matter what body type you are there is always something that is beautiful and unique and should be celebrated for their own beauty as it takes many forms and everyone is beautiful in their own amazing things.

                                                         Stay Beautiful
                                                              Stacey

Hi There My Beauties

I had a thought today just a simple little thought and that then turned into a some great big spider monster thing with many legs to say the least, and my conclusion to this that was that no one is 100% happy with all of there body when you really think about it, I expect that if you go and ask someone or a group of people not one of them will say that they are a 100% happy with their body. They will all have at least one thing they do not like.

Some people decide to spends hundreds and thousands maybe millions on changing those things they do not like with the likes of plastic surgery or things like that to take away the things that they do not like and sometimes come of worse for it, as it can never be guaranteed and go terribly wrong or not look the way you thought it would.

Others choose to hide the parts of themselves they do not like if it covering with something, like clothes, with make-up, or Photoshop. People get very creative in the ways that they try to hide the parts they don't like about themselves. You have to remember though that the things that you don't like about you someone else will and that no one is ever perfect and everyone has a different opinion of beauty otherwise we would all be attracted to the same people right.

Personally I have come to love my scars I have it is my story written on me and it can be a good conversation starter. A lot of people dislike there scars thinking they are ugly or what not, but I think they are something to be proud of they show that I am a survivor and that I am strong, a fighter and I believe that on it's own is enough to make me like my scars plus I have some that look like I had wings and they are now gone, so it is like I'm angel sent from the sky (or so I like to think). I think that is a pretty nice way to think about it.

Hey everyone
How are you Today?
I'm just checking in to see how you all are seeing as the other day I had a bit of a low self-esteem day/moment whatever you like to call it and I thought I would share how I felt with you all (I'm not going to share why or what made me feel like that).

Well the day started off like any other I wasn't overly happy or unhappy just the nice in between feeling like anything could happen it could go either way, Sadly to say it id and I ended up feeling really bad about myself very like someone was watching my every more waiting for me to make a mistake (which I know they probably were not), and spending a fair part of the day beating myself up about it by telling myself such things as I'm not good enough and I do not deserve this etc . One top of all that I am just feeling right down sad and don't know what to do or how to make the feeling go away and sometimes you just got to bare with it and give it time.

I myself hate feeling like this, as I expect most people do and I try to not let it effect me, but it can very easily effect me and my social life as I want to go out and do things less and less and sometimes just want to be alone (which I have learnt is probably not the best thing to do but can't help feeling this way). Then it can start effecting people that are close to you and your friendships.

Luckily for me these feelings most of the time don't last that long, but sometimes can. This one though lasted the rest of the day and got easier as the day/night went by as I wasn't in the same place or situation as it had occurred in.

Sometimes all you need is a good support system and good friends to listen and rally round you (Even if it is to tell you how silly you are being and you have to high an expectation of yourself your only human).

I am so glad I have gotten over this hiccup of low self- esteem, please let me know if you have felt like this or something like this as we are never alone, there are people that feel the way you do.

Hi Everyone,
Today I had this idea, which I thought was pretty good one, but know I'm hoping it hasn't been done before or not in the same way.

You ask what could this thought be? well my dear readers the thought was to either take a photo or write down in list form with the date what made you smile that day or made you happy (which if you were smiling would mean that you are happy or at least I hope so). Then I thought I would put it on here as a challenge so that everyone could do it and then share them if you so wished to.

I forgot to say you should look back at the photos or read your lists. The aim of this is to make you feel more positive about you and your life and to realise that it is the small things in life can be just as rewarding as the big things it can be something as small as listening to the birds sing in the morning, or some stranger smiling at you or saying hello to the bigger things in life like getting a promotion or new job or even getting good grades or the grades that you wanted.

So I am hoping at least a few people will take part in this with me and hopeful it will help you build your confidence or self-esteem even if it is a little bit because every little will help to a better more confident you.

please leave a comment letting me know what you think of this challenge or if you are doing it.

                                                        Best wishes
                                                          Stacey

• Genetic factors
• Physical appearance or weight
• metal health issues
• peer pressure
• bullying
• socioeconomic status.

• Heavy self -criticism and dissatisfaction
• Hypersensitivity to criticism with feelings of being attacked and resentment against critics.
• Excessive will or need to please and unwillingness to displease any petitioner.
• Perfectionism, which can lead to frustration where perfection is not achieved
• Neurotic guilt, dwelling or magnitude of past mistakes
• Floating hostility and general defensiveness and irritability without any cause
• Pessimism and a general negative outlook
• Envy, invidiousness, or general resentment
• Sees temporary setbacks as permanent or intolerable conditions.

• Do something you enjoy . Doing something that you both enjoy and are good at, can help build your confidence and increase your self-esteem. This can be anything at all.
• Work . Work can provide identity, friendship, a steady routine plus a salary (which is always a bonus). Some people thrive in a busy environment with ambitious targets to aim for. It is important to feel confident in what you do even if it is volunteering.
• Hobbies . This could be anything that you enjoy doing such as ,learning a new language, singing or painting. It can be something that you have a natural ability in , or something that you have always wanted to try, but make it something that won't challenge you to much.
• Try to build positive relationships. Try to find people that will not criticise you, and who that you feel able to talk to about your feelings. If you spend your time around people that are positive and supportive, then you are more likely to have a better self-image and feel more confident.
• Learn to be assertive, being assertive that you value yourself and others, and can communicate with mutual respect. Here are some things that will help you act in a more assertive way, pay attention to your body language as well as the words you say, try to express your feelings if you have been upset - you should wait until you feel calm and explain clearly how you are feeling, say 'no' to unreasonable requests, tell people if you need more time and support and try to speak in the first person when possible- e.g. "when you speak to me like that, I feel ....".
• Assertiveness is a skill that can be learn and can be a difficult one to learn.
• Looking after your physical health. Looking after your physical health can make you feel happier and healthier and can improve your self-image . You can do this through physical activity , sleep and diet preferably a healthy diet.
• Set yourself a challenge, you should make sure the challenge has a achievable goal and does not have to be that large a goal. If you do set yourself a challenge and work towards meeting it , you will feel more satisfied and proud of yourself when you achieve the challenge and your goals and on a whole more positive as a result.
• Focus on the positive things, this will  take time to get use to thinking positively about yourself. One way to do this might be to make a list of things that you like about yourself you can include things about your personality, things about the way you look, things that you do and skills you have developed

Hey Guys,
I have started this blog so that I can talk about and possibly help someone (which would be AMAZING to say the least).

I am going to be writing about different kinds of problems that people have for example social problems e.g. anxiety, shyness, interacting, making friends, to the more personal struggles such as self confidence, self image, body image, eating disorders and self worth, as well as the more difficult struggles that we all have in our lives.

I aim to help others understand others with there struggles and how best to help, as I believe that there is a lack of information out there to educate people on different conditions that people have or problems people have to face day to day and you may think that you are helping and trying everything and nothing seems to make it better (It is amazing that you are trying to help another person I don't want you feeling bad or I am putting you down for it), but you are maybe going about it the wrong way, which is ok it's better to try then not to try. I would also like to help someone with a condition or a struggle they are facing.

I don't claim to know everything and I may not always be right but I want to help or at the very least try to

If you want me to cover any topics then feel free to leave suggestions in the comments and I will try to write a post on it, but I can not promise that I will and I would love to hear your stories

Best Wishes
Stacey