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Hi Everyone,
Today I had this idea, which I thought was pretty good one, but know I'm hoping it hasn't been done before or not in the same way.

You ask what could this thought be? well my dear readers the thought was to either take a photo or write down in list form with the date what made you smile that day or made you happy (which if you were smiling would mean that you are happy or at least I hope so). Then I thought I would put it on here as a challenge so that everyone could do it and then share them if you so wished to.

I forgot to say you should look back at the photos or read your lists. The aim of this is to make you feel more positive about you and your life and to realise that it is the small things in life can be just as rewarding as the big things it can be something as small as listening to the birds sing in the morning, or some stranger smiling at you or saying hello to the bigger things in life like getting a promotion or new job or even getting good grades or the grades that you wanted.

So I am hoping at least a few people will take part in this with me and hopeful it will help you build your confidence or self-esteem even if it is a little bit because every little will help to a better more confident you.

please leave a comment letting me know what you think of this challenge or if you are doing it.

                                                        Best wishes
                                                          Stacey

Hi everyone,
Today I thought I would talk to you about low self-esteem as I know many people suffer from this and that it might be useful to have some ways of dealing with it and building your self-esteem up and that you do not have to do this alone.



First off low self-esteem can be a result of various factors such as:
  • Genetic factors
  • Physical appearance or weight
  • metal health issues
  • peer pressure
  • bullying
  • socioeconomic status.
A person with low self-esteem may have some of these factors shown blow
  • Heavy self -criticism and dissatisfaction
  • Hypersensitivity to criticism with feelings of being attacked and resentment against critics.
  • Excessive will or need to please and unwillingness to displease any petitioner.
  • Perfectionism, which can lead to frustration where perfection is not achieved
  • Neurotic guilt, dwelling or magnitude of past mistakes
  • Floating hostility and general defensiveness and irritability without any cause
  • Pessimism and a general negative outlook
  • Envy, invidiousness, or general resentment
  • Sees temporary setbacks as permanent or intolerable conditions.
People with low self-esteem tend to be critical of themselves. Some may depend on approval and praise from others when evaluating their self - worth. Others might measure their likability in terms of successes and may accept them if they succeed but will not if they don't.

                           Building your self -esteem!


Here are a few things that may help you build your self -esteem:
  • Do something you enjoy . Doing something that you both enjoy and are good at, can help build your confidence and increase your self-esteem. This can be anything at all.
  • Work . Work can provide identity, friendship, a steady routine plus a salary (which is always a bonus). Some people thrive in a busy environment with ambitious targets to aim for. It is important to feel confident in what you do even if it is volunteering.
  • Hobbies . This could be anything that you enjoy doing such as ,learning a new language, singing or painting. It can be something that you have a natural ability in , or something that you have always wanted to try, but make it something that won't challenge you to much.
  • Try to build positive relationships. Try to find people that will not criticise you, and who that you feel able to talk to about your feelings. If you spend your time around people that are positive and supportive, then you are more likely to have a better self-image and feel more confident.
  • Learn to be assertive, being assertive that you value yourself and others, and can communicate with mutual respect. Here are some things that will help you act in a more assertive way, pay attention to your body language as well as the words you say, try to express your feelings if you have been upset - you should wait until you feel calm and explain clearly how you are feeling, say 'no' to unreasonable requests, tell people if you need more time and support and try to speak in the first person when possible- e.g. "when you speak to me like that, I feel ....".
  • Assertiveness is a skill that can be learn and can be a difficult one to learn.
  • Looking after your physical health. Looking after your physical health can make you feel happier and healthier and can improve your self-image . You can do this through physical activity , sleep and diet preferably a healthy diet.
  • Set yourself a challenge, you should make sure the challenge has a achievable goal and does not have to be that large a goal. If you do set yourself a challenge and work towards meeting it , you will feel more satisfied and proud of yourself when you achieve the challenge and your goals and on a whole more positive as a result.
  • Focus on the positive things, this will  take time to get use to thinking positively about yourself. One way to do this might be to make a list of things that you like about yourself you can include things about your personality, things about the way you look, things that you do and skills you have developed
Take your time making the list it can take as long as you want with weeks, months even years if you want it to. It is completely up to you

Final note don't ever forget that you are never alone and there are people out there that want and will help you.

                                                                        until next time
    Best wishes
   Stacey  







Hey Guys,
I have started this blog so that I can talk about and possibly help someone (which would be AMAZING to say the least).

I am going to be writing about different kinds of problems that people have for example social problems e.g. anxiety, shyness, interacting, making friends, to the more personal struggles such as self confidence, self image, body image, eating disorders and self worth, as well as the more difficult struggles that we all have in our lives.

I aim to help others understand others with there struggles and how best to help, as I believe that there is a lack of information out there to educate people on different conditions that people have or problems people have to face day to day and you may think that you are helping and trying everything and nothing seems to make it better (It is amazing that you are trying to help another person I don't want you feeling bad or I am putting you down for it), but you are maybe going about it the wrong way, which is ok it's better to try then not to try. I would also like to help someone with a condition or a struggle they are facing.

I don't claim to know everything and I may not always be right but I want to help or at the very least try to

If you want me to cover any topics then feel free to leave suggestions in the comments and I will try to write a post on it, but I can not promise that I will and I would love to hear your stories

Best Wishes
Stacey
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