Your Happy Life

Hi guys
I noticed an overwhelming amount of people writing, commenting and talking about other people and other people's body's and comparing them or shaming them rather then looking at there own and caring so much about there own.

People who do this often are not happy with there own appearance or there own body, and rather then deal with there own body issues they turn all their built up feelings on their own body and turn them on others and make them feel bad about their bodies and start a whole lot of issues for them.

Rather then deal with their own issues and make them selves feel better and happier and solve their own issue. Which would be a lot better then creating them for others, that way everyone is happy and confident in their own skin

It does matter if your thin, skinny, chubby, large, curvy no matter what body type you are there is always something that is beautiful and unique and should be celebrated for their own beauty as it takes many forms and everyone is beautiful in their own amazing things.

                                                         Stay Beautiful
                                                              Stacey

Hi There My Beauties

I had a thought today just a simple little thought and that then turned into a some great big spider monster thing with many legs to say the least, and my conclusion to this that was that no one is 100% happy with all of there body when you really think about it, I expect that if you go and ask someone or a group of people not one of them will say that they are a 100% happy with their body. They will all have at least one thing they do not like.

Some people decide to spends hundreds and thousands maybe millions on changing those things they do not like with the likes of plastic surgery or things like that to take away the things that they do not like and sometimes come of worse for it, as it can never be guaranteed and go terribly wrong or not look the way you thought it would.

Others choose to hide the parts of themselves they do not like if it covering with something, like clothes, with make-up, or Photoshop. People get very creative in the ways that they try to hide the parts they don't like about themselves. You have to remember though that the things that you don't like about you someone else will and that no one is ever perfect and everyone has a different opinion of beauty otherwise we would all be attracted to the same people right.

Personally I have come to love my scars I have it is my story written on me and it can be a good conversation starter. A lot of people dislike there scars thinking they are ugly or what not, but I think they are something to be proud of they show that I am a survivor and that I am strong, a fighter and I believe that on it's own is enough to make me like my scars plus I have some that look like I had wings and they are now gone, so it is like I'm angel sent from the sky (or so I like to think). I think that is a pretty nice way to think about it.

Hey everyone
How are you Today?
I'm just checking in to see how you all are seeing as the other day I had a bit of a low self-esteem day/moment whatever you like to call it and I thought I would share how I felt with you all (I'm not going to share why or what made me feel like that).

Well the day started off like any other I wasn't overly happy or unhappy just the nice in between feeling like anything could happen it could go either way, Sadly to say it id and I ended up feeling really bad about myself very like someone was watching my every more waiting for me to make a mistake (which I know they probably were not), and spending a fair part of the day beating myself up about it by telling myself such things as I'm not good enough and I do not deserve this etc . One top of all that I am just feeling right down sad and don't know what to do or how to make the feeling go away and sometimes you just got to bare with it and give it time.

I myself hate feeling like this, as I expect most people do and I try to not let it effect me, but it can very easily effect me and my social life as I want to go out and do things less and less and sometimes just want to be alone (which I have learnt is probably not the best thing to do but can't help feeling this way). Then it can start effecting people that are close to you and your friendships.

Luckily for me these feelings most of the time don't last that long, but sometimes can. This one though lasted the rest of the day and got easier as the day/night went by as I wasn't in the same place or situation as it had occurred in.

Sometimes all you need is a good support system and good friends to listen and rally round you (Even if it is to tell you how silly you are being and you have to high an expectation of yourself your only human).

I am so glad I have gotten over this hiccup of low self- esteem, please let me know if you have felt like this or something like this as we are never alone, there are people that feel the way you do.

Hi Everyone,
Today I had this idea, which I thought was pretty good one, but know I'm hoping it hasn't been done before or not in the same way.

You ask what could this thought be? well my dear readers the thought was to either take a photo or write down in list form with the date what made you smile that day or made you happy (which if you were smiling would mean that you are happy or at least I hope so). Then I thought I would put it on here as a challenge so that everyone could do it and then share them if you so wished to.

I forgot to say you should look back at the photos or read your lists. The aim of this is to make you feel more positive about you and your life and to realise that it is the small things in life can be just as rewarding as the big things it can be something as small as listening to the birds sing in the morning, or some stranger smiling at you or saying hello to the bigger things in life like getting a promotion or new job or even getting good grades or the grades that you wanted.

So I am hoping at least a few people will take part in this with me and hopeful it will help you build your confidence or self-esteem even if it is a little bit because every little will help to a better more confident you.

please leave a comment letting me know what you think of this challenge or if you are doing it.

                                                        Best wishes
                                                          Stacey

• Genetic factors
• Physical appearance or weight
• metal health issues
• peer pressure
• bullying
• socioeconomic status.

• Heavy self -criticism and dissatisfaction
• Hypersensitivity to criticism with feelings of being attacked and resentment against critics.
• Excessive will or need to please and unwillingness to displease any petitioner.
• Perfectionism, which can lead to frustration where perfection is not achieved
• Neurotic guilt, dwelling or magnitude of past mistakes
• Floating hostility and general defensiveness and irritability without any cause
• Pessimism and a general negative outlook
• Envy, invidiousness, or general resentment
• Sees temporary setbacks as permanent or intolerable conditions.

• Do something you enjoy . Doing something that you both enjoy and are good at, can help build your confidence and increase your self-esteem. This can be anything at all.
• Work . Work can provide identity, friendship, a steady routine plus a salary (which is always a bonus). Some people thrive in a busy environment with ambitious targets to aim for. It is important to feel confident in what you do even if it is volunteering.
• Hobbies . This could be anything that you enjoy doing such as ,learning a new language, singing or painting. It can be something that you have a natural ability in , or something that you have always wanted to try, but make it something that won't challenge you to much.
• Try to build positive relationships. Try to find people that will not criticise you, and who that you feel able to talk to about your feelings. If you spend your time around people that are positive and supportive, then you are more likely to have a better self-image and feel more confident.
• Learn to be assertive, being assertive that you value yourself and others, and can communicate with mutual respect. Here are some things that will help you act in a more assertive way, pay attention to your body language as well as the words you say, try to express your feelings if you have been upset - you should wait until you feel calm and explain clearly how you are feeling, say 'no' to unreasonable requests, tell people if you need more time and support and try to speak in the first person when possible- e.g. "when you speak to me like that, I feel ....".
• Assertiveness is a skill that can be learn and can be a difficult one to learn.
• Looking after your physical health. Looking after your physical health can make you feel happier and healthier and can improve your self-image . You can do this through physical activity , sleep and diet preferably a healthy diet.
• Set yourself a challenge, you should make sure the challenge has a achievable goal and does not have to be that large a goal. If you do set yourself a challenge and work towards meeting it , you will feel more satisfied and proud of yourself when you achieve the challenge and your goals and on a whole more positive as a result.
• Focus on the positive things, this will  take time to get use to thinking positively about yourself. One way to do this might be to make a list of things that you like about yourself you can include things about your personality, things about the way you look, things that you do and skills you have developed

Hey Guys,
I have started this blog so that I can talk about and possibly help someone (which would be AMAZING to say the least).

I am going to be writing about different kinds of problems that people have for example social problems e.g. anxiety, shyness, interacting, making friends, to the more personal struggles such as self confidence, self image, body image, eating disorders and self worth, as well as the more difficult struggles that we all have in our lives.

I aim to help others understand others with there struggles and how best to help, as I believe that there is a lack of information out there to educate people on different conditions that people have or problems people have to face day to day and you may think that you are helping and trying everything and nothing seems to make it better (It is amazing that you are trying to help another person I don't want you feeling bad or I am putting you down for it), but you are maybe going about it the wrong way, which is ok it's better to try then not to try. I would also like to help someone with a condition or a struggle they are facing.

I don't claim to know everything and I may not always be right but I want to help or at the very least try to

If you want me to cover any topics then feel free to leave suggestions in the comments and I will try to write a post on it, but I can not promise that I will and I would love to hear your stories

Best Wishes
Stacey